Today I did something that I think I will remember for the rest of my life along with the person who was impacted by this action. I was with my friend Griffin and we decided to go downtown. We were trying to figure out different ways to make friends. We were worried that once college ended we wouldn't know how to make friends without the college setting. After tossing around a few ideas on how to make friends, one of us came up with the idea of writing a note and giving it to a random stranger. I took out the notepad I keep in my purse and started writing a message to a stranger. Griffin wrote something like "the wind rustling in the trees is calling your name". She wanted to give the note to someone and completely confuse them. She liked the idea that the message was spontaneous and random and would leave the person asking "why?" . I wanted to have a connection with the person I handed the message to. I wrote something like this:
Hello,
I thought you had a friendly face so I decided to give you this note. I always thought it was fascinating that you could pass by someone and look at their face and share a sliver of a moment and then go on with your life without thinking of that person again. This note is a method of extending that moment and someday you will look at this note again and remember that tiny sliver of a moment and smile. I think that is beautiful. I hope you have a beautiful day
-Camille
Griffin and I walked around the magnificent mile trying to find the right people to hand the notes to. After a few blocks griffin bravely thrust her note filled hand towards a tall man with curly gray hair and held it there until he saw it and took the note. She then shoved me towards the crosswalk and walked in the opposite direction of the man. She asked me to look back at the man to see his reaction. I saw that he was reading the note very intensely. He looked incredibly confused because he just kept reading the note over and over again. He never looked back to see where the secret note giver went.
It took much more time for me. I wasn't nearly as brave as Griffin. Griffin made me walk in the middle of the sidewalk and I looked at every single person that walked past me but I couldn't find the right person. I was looking for someone who seemed to be open minded enough to understand the value of the note and someone who I shared a moment of eye contact with so that the "sliver of a moment" in the note would make sense. Griffin and I walked block after block as I tried to find the right person to give it to. As I passed people I would think, "Oh I should give it to them" but then I would chicken out and keep walking, hoping to find someone who suited my purpose better.
Finally, after doing what I decided would be my last loop around the block I saw a boy and I decided that HE would be the person I gave the note to. I looked at him really intensely and he looked at me really intensely and then I handed him the note. He took the note as though it was the most fragile thing in the world, as though it was a newborn child. He looked strangely honored, as though he understood its value and how long it took me to find the right person to give it to. I looked at him one last time and quickly walked across the street he just finished crossing. I didn't look back. Griffin grabbed my shoulder telling me not to look back as she peeked over her shoulder to see how he reacted. We turned a corner and griffin peaked peeked over corner of the building to see what he was doing. She said that he stopped walking and he was reading the note, looking over towards where I disappeared. We then walked towards the train and went home.
This was an incredibly interesting experience. It's fun to imagine what the boy was thinking after I gave him the note. When I told my dad what I did he kept saying "boy! He must be going crazy with curiosity". I just keep wondering if it would cause him to change the way he looked at the world and if anything as simple as a note could change his world. The note wasn't a call to action or anything it was just something to make someone aware of their existence and the fact that every moment in life can mean something. He is probably wondering why I gave him the note and I can't really say I have much of an answer except that he was the first person I walked past that was really aware of me.
I am still sort of amazed at how he received the note. Griffin and I both noticed how accepting of the notes these two strangers were. As I walked block after block I was always worried that if I handed the note to someone they would automatically reject it because they would assume it was some kind of advertisement. Both people we gave it to accepted the note without question. They didn't even talk. They just took the note. We thought maybe it had to do with the fact that it was a folded piece of notebook paper. Folded notebook paper has something special about it. I don't know. I wonder how I would react if a stranger gave me a random note. This experience really opened my mind to a whole bunch of new ideas. I don't know if I will be brave enough to do it again but I'm glad I was brave enough to do it once.